Hygge – coziness, atmosphere, comfort, peace, harmony, and all the other words that come to mind when you think of it. Today, I’d like to introduce you to Micael Wiking’s book, Little Book of Hygge: The Danish Way to Live Well.
It’s no secret that many Scandinavian countries are considered wealthy, and their people are happy, despite weather conditions that many would consider far from ideal. We can easily understand why the Spanish, for example, retreat from the sun after lunch to enjoy a siesta. But why are the Scandinavians, who rarely see the sun throughout the year, so much happier? Micael Wiking seeks to answer this question, and his belief is that the answer lies in the Danish philosophy of life—hygge.
Due to unfavorable weather, the Danes have learned to bring a pleasant atmosphere into their homes, offices, and any other places where people seek shelter from the rain and spend their days. This atmosphere is made up of many small things that are quite obvious but often forgotten by many of us. Yet, it’s precisely these little things that bring us peace and restore our energy. So, let’s delve a little deeper and recall what brings us that same sense of comfort, peace, and joy. Micael highlights 10 key elements that define this feeling:
- ATMOSPHERE. Light is crucial for our relaxation, and the most comfortable light for our eyes is candlelight. Micael suggests creating small islands of soft light and lighting candles.
- PRESENCE. Eliminate all distractions, especially your phone, and fully immerse yourself in the moment and the people around you.
- PLEASURE. Treat yourself to something sweet and delicious—remember, good food also adds joy to life.
- EQUALITY. "We" over "I." Share both responsibilities and freedom. If you’ve decided to host a gathering, remember that everyone is now part of creating that experience. It’s important that everyone participates and understands their role in shaping the atmosphere.
- GRATITUDE. Give and receive it—both are equally valuable. Gratitude brings you back to the present moment, helping you appreciate what you have, which can be considered a small part of happiness.
- HARMONY. Micael notes: "It’s not a competition. You’re already liked. There’s no need to prove anything to anyone." This means fully accepting others. If you’re part of a group, you’re enough as you are, and if you welcome someone new, you must accept them as they are.
- COMFORT. Settle in, take a pause, and relax.
- PEACE. During hygge, there’s no room for arguments or drama. This is a time you spend alone or with others, and provocative topics only disrupt this atmosphere.
- TOGETHERNESS. It’s important to remember shared moments and create new ones. Dream together about future experiences and recall stories that bring nostalgia, making the evening even cozier. Also, remember that even today can become such a moment.
- SHELTER. The people and the place—this is your safety. It’s important to feel calm and relaxed.
The core principle of hygge is being present in the moment, enjoying it fully, and being completely in the space and with the people you’ve chosen. Maintaining this state is crucial, as our world moves so quickly that we can easily miss the wonderful hours of life. This philosophy helps you regain your energy and understand the importance of self-care. Happiness doesn’t require much—many people can create such an atmosphere. It also reminds us of our responsibility for our own space, because who else can change it if not us? It also sparks creativity: with limited resources (financial, time, social), how can I create hygge for myself?
The book offers small tips and describes many scientific studies that Micael, as a researcher at the Happiness Research Institute, conducted himself. The book itself is quite cozy and can provide that same sense of hygge if you settle into a comfortable chair, wrap yourself in a blanket, and sip tea while immersing yourself in this beautiful philosophy of coziness.
